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Question: My boyfriend and i are on a break, why is he acting this way?

(Posted by: Vogue on 2008-12-01 17:11:01)

My boyfriend and I were arguing a lot and I told my boyfriend I wanted to take a step back from our relationship before I get hurt, and he suggested taking a break and seeing what happens, no pressure, no drama. We didn't speak for a couple of days and it has been really hard since we basically live together. We talked yesterday and I spent the night at his house last night, yet I felt like I was really unwanted there. We usually talk all day long and I texted him after I left his house this morning to have a good day and he kept making stupid *** jokes responding to my text saying "who is this ". Why is he acting like a jerk all of a sudden. We have been together 2 years and he's never done this before. He even said last night "yes! I'm single " just to be a smartass. I want us to get back together and I want us to work things out. I want him to want me though and I don't want to look desperate for him back. So many girls will let their boyfriends take advantage of the situation because they're vunurable and I don't want to be like that. So why is he acting this way? Is he being defensive? And how do I win him back and get things back to normal without looking desperate? :( btw he's 34 and I'm 21 People have been telling me to act like i dont give a shit but how do you do that and still be nice to him?

Posted by: Julian on 2008-12-01, 17:26:11

He is feeling guilty for ruining your relationship, and he's taking the anger out on you, through jokes and his little games. The last thing a guy needs is a relationship on the verge of collapse. The stress of the whole situation is extremely high for the two of you. Avoiding the situation, like you are doing currently, does nothing for the problem. It sounds nice to take a break from the person you love, but in reality, it just doesn't work. Instead of continuing this game, you should just set a day up with to simply talk about your problems. Talking helps and, unless hes as stubborn as a mule, he should come around and agree to talking with you. Then the two of you can talk about your problems in a mature way. But this will be hard in your case since talking leads to arguments in your relationship. While talking, try not ot insult him, and if he insults you, just say this is not the time to throw insults at each other. From there, as long as the two of you do not get into an argument, you should be able to resolve your problems, and stop this separation to "clear the air, " it doesn't work!

Posted by: tiredofitall on 2008-12-01, 17:17:49

Well it sounds like he is tiring of you. He had his fun, know its time for him to find another 21 year old to have some fun with. Believe me it's not you. He is acting the way he does because he doesn't care really. Eventually he will break up with you. Best thing for you to do to at least keep some pride, is to break up with him. Hopefully you do have some place to live. This guy is not a keeper.

Posted by: Mememe on 2008-12-01, 17:44:40

Well, it does sound like he was bored anyway and you just helped him do what he wanted. Maybe he wants to be single. Find someone closer to your own age? These older men will only want young *****, cos its tight.