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Posted by: ask.oliver on 2008-12-01, 18:54:30
Well as I see it you can do a combination of two things. But before I go into that… I just want to preface this with… people are who they are… and usually there isn’t much you can do to change them. It sounds like your brother is a fun loving goof ball, and your boyfriend is somewhat serious who doesn’t always “get” other peoples sense of humor. That being said… you really need to prepare them for each other. 1.)Sit your brother down and tell him you need to ask him his advice/ help. Let your brother know that you have someone new in your life that is important. Go ahead and tell your brother that he is a very serious type. Much more serious than you or your family or friends are accustomed to. Tell your brother that you need his advise and ideas on how you might best be able to best transition this new guy into meeting your more “enthusiastic” friends and family without scaring him off. And if you are slick enough… you might be able to slide in a “joke” about the previous boyfriend-meets-family encounter. This would be a way that you can give your brother a “hint” without making him feel accused, attacked, or that he has a raging personality flaw. That would get you nowhere. If you play your cards right, you might be able to solicit his “help”. 2.)Now as for Mr. Serious. The best you can do is prepare him for the worst. I’d actually tell him the story of what happened last time… just so he is prepared. Let him know you are anxious for him to meet your brother… and tell him why. With this being done… even if your brother comes downstairs dressed as Cher with a little Indian drum singing “HALF BREED!” your date wont be completely paralyzed with shock. Good Luck! |
